Fed up with failed weight loss attempts, serious help needed.?

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I've essentially been struggling with weight all my life, except it's only been a real struggle for the past 3 years. By that I mean, throughout highschool I was weighing in at 135 with a height of 5'4. Which I would kill for right now. At that time, I thought I was overweight, obviously I was wrong.

Now, 7 years later I am actually having a legitimate struggle with my weight. I'm the same height, but weighing in at 200lbs! & not nicely proportioned either. I can get into detail about how I think I got here, but I won't, I'm at this weight and it's practically ruined many things. For starters the lack of confidence which has lead to being single for 3+ years, an almost non existent social life and so on.

I've tried and failed to lose this weight many times over the last few years. At most I reached a 10lb weight loss, and fell right back into my old habits. I can work out all-day long, my problem is food. I just can't seem to stick to any proper diet. I've tried everything from strict, controlled diets, to simple just choosing the right food diets and I can never last. My cravings can never be controlled.

I've gotten to the point where I need professional help, but don't know where to go? I'd imagine my doctor will just hand me some healthy foods chart and tell me to exercise 3-5x a week. The very things I've tried and failed at over and over again.

Any advice or suggestions on where to start now would be appreciated

Answer 1

Eat only raw fruit and veggies. When I became vegan I lost 10lbs the first week and lost around 25lb the first month and continued to lose 10lbs a month. I used and elliptical machine twice a day for 1 hour 30 mins each and 100 sit-ups/100 crunches when I woke and before I went to sleep everyday eating 1200 calories and drinking 60 to 80oz of water a day. If you can bare the taste of unsweetened green tea it really helps. I also used Lipo 6 for Women fat burner pills for energy. It really works! Hope I helped!

Answer 2

Wow does your story sound familiar.I think I could have written that myself! First of all let me give you {{hugs}}.

Now, here is the most valuable and effective advice I can give you:

1. Stop being "mean" to yourself.



I mean it. Right now. This very second.



I always held myself to this silly standard that I didn't deserve to be confident..or dress pretty...or have a social life...or live anything even remotely resembling a normal life because I WAS FAT-therefore I must punish myself. I would punish myself by telling myself I was an ugly disgusting loser, or that that I didn't deserve a pretty dress, or to have fun with my friends or to even be successful at work because I was overweight-therefore unfit to be in society. Then I would be sad. Then I would eat because I was sad. Then I would start the whole thing over again. I never could trust that any guy could ever genuinely love me because after all, I was fat and no one love's fat girls.

I had this plan in my head that someday I would lose all the weight and THEN I would go out with friends. THEN I would dress pretty and wear makeup and shoot for that promotion at work. When I was skinny...then I could go to the beach or on vacation and I would have the time of my life and then I would be HAPPY. When I was skinny I would take all those chances in my life that I had put off because FAT me didn't deserve this.

But then I woke up one day and I was 40 years old, and I realized I had never been to the beach, or Vegas or anywhere for that matter. I hadn't written my "great American novel" (or anything else for that matter). My friends had stopped calling to invite me places and I was just so tired of being lonely all the time. I was tired of hating myself and that's when something shifted inside me.

I decided that if I never lost another pound, I was going to be kind to ME. No matter what. I had to stop "punishing" myself for not being thin, and start rewarding myself for the things I AM. I am smart. I am loving and kind. I am honest, generous and beautiful and so are you.

That's where you have to start. You have to decide to be nice to you, and you have to decide that you deserve it.

Once you make that "shift" in your mind, I SWEAR to you, you will start looking at food in a different way and what's more important is that you will be LIVING-not obsessing. (And once you start living you will be amazed at all the calories you burn!)

When I made the decision to stop being mean to myself I weighed about 220. That was three years ago. Now I teeter around 145-150. (at 5'6").

It didn't happen overnight, and I still have those moments where the old me shows up and I eat a half dozen cupcakes-but I am now able to forgive myself for stumbling, and I could never do that before.

You can get there too. When that voice in your head starts telling you nasty things about yourself (you know what I'm talking about), you stop it dead in its tracks. You say, out loud< " No! I am wonderful and smart and beautiful!" and you KEEP saying that until you feel it in your heart of hearts.

Right now today you do something NICE for you. Then thank yourself.

Answer 3

begin a walking regime

Answer 4

alcohol has calories too you know sub three drinks a week for lighter versions to drop a pound a year

Answer 5

Keep a chalkboard in your kitchen and writedown your weekly meal plan

Answer 6

keeping good posture will not only strengthen your core but will also add a small extra calorie burn because you re working slightly harder to maintain the position

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make it a point to use the steps whenever possible use the bathroom on a different floor at work take the stairs at the bus station the airport or the mall

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2 hours golfing but make sure you carry the clubs

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dump the junk food if you want to avoid temptation make sure you clean out the fridge and the pantry

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read capotes breakfast at tiffanys from start to finish

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90 minutes on the elliptical

Answer 12

eat fewer calories than you burn to lose weight

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kick off your sunday shoes and dance to the first four songs off the footloose soundtrack

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drink red wine

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give the delivery guy a break when you order food in pick it up yourself

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skip waiting rooms

Answer 17

while on vacation also don t forget your diet and exercise plans

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turn on tunes and dance while cooking

Answer 19

play fetch with your dog

Answer 20

teach your kids your favorite sport or have them teach you theirs